Journey To Me

Patience

Growing up I was always told that patience was a good thing to have.  I guess that it is good in certain circumstances, but in my life currently, I HAVE NONE LEFT! 

My husband still has not gotten a job (has been almost 4 weeks now) and the money has run out.  While I know that we will make it work (it has always worked out in the past) it has taken such a toll on our relationship.  I don't want to yell at him and tell him how I really feel (that he is not doing enough to get a new job, that he is not doing enough at home while he is not working, that this is not supposed to be a vacation for him, etc...) because if I tell him how I really feel, my fear is that he will not think that I am a supportive wife.  I am supportive!  I just need him to get a job so that he can help contribute!  I don't make enough money to cover all the bills (he could work PT at a good job, or FT at a temporary job and we could make squeeze by) and it is really starting to wear on me!  I walked in the door last night and all I wanted to do was yell at him for "putting me in this position and stressing me out". 

So as I cried myself to sleep last night without telling him again how I feel, I wish I could tell him in a way that wouldn't hurt his feelings or make him feel even more emasculated than he already does. 

Any suggestions?

Quit your job

08:11, Friday, September 7, 2007 .. Posted by gokings13

Yep, quit your job.
Tell him that you wish to honor and respect and submit to his authority as head of household. Apologize for working out side the home and trying to infringe on his role as the head, and let him know that you will be taking on the role of wife and mother as the Bible prescribes from this day forward.........

Alot of times, when we women *think* we are helping, we are actually hurting our husbands.......

Been there......done that!!
HTH
Laura