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I will provide the link to the new blog to all of you who've asked sometime later this week. |
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Many of you have asked me where I am and why I am no longer blogging. The answer is on a new blog I put together. It is accessible by invitation only as a protective device. For more information, you may email me. Words are part of my life. Chronicling my present experiences will facilitate healing and prayerfully will empower others. |
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Psalm 37 1Fret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity. 2For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. 3Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. 4Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. 5Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. 6And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday. 7Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. 8Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. 9For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the LORD, they shall inherit the earth. 10For yet a little while, and the wicked shall not be: yea, thou shalt diligently consider his place, and it shall not be. 11But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace. 12The wicked plotteth against the just, and gnasheth upon him with his teeth. 13The LORD shall laugh at him: for he seeth that his day is coming. 14The wicked have drawn out the sword, and have bent their bow, to cast down the poor and needy, and to slay such as be of upright conversation. 15Their sword shall enter into their own heart, and their bows shall be broken. 16A little that a righteous man hath is better than the riches of many wicked. 17For the arms of the wicked shall be broken: but the LORD upholdeth the righteous. 18The LORD knoweth the days of the upright: and their inheritance shall be for ever. 19They shall not be ashamed in the evil time: and in the days of famine they shall be satisfied. 20But the wicked shall perish, and the enemies of the LORD shall be as the fat of lambs: they shall consume; into smoke shall they consume away. 21The wicked borroweth, and payeth not again: but the righteous sheweth mercy, and giveth. 22For such as be blessed of him shall inherit the earth; and they that be cursed of him shall be cut off. 23The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way. 24Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the LORD upholdeth him with his hand. 25I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. 26He is ever merciful, and lendeth; and his seed is blessed. 27Depart from evil, and do good; and dwell for evermore. 28For the LORD loveth judgment, and forsaketh not his saints; they are preserved for ever: but the seed of the wicked shall be cut off. 29The righteous shall inherit the land, and dwell therein for ever. 30The mouth of the righteous speaketh wisdom, and his tongue talketh of judgment. 31The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide. 32The wicked watcheth the righteous, and seeketh to slay him. 33The LORD will not leave him in his hand, nor condemn him when he is judged. 34Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shalt see it. 35I have seen the wicked in great power, and spreading himself like a green bay tree. 36Yet he passed away, and, lo, he was not: yea, I sought him, but he could not be found. 37Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace. 38But the transgressors shall be destroyed together: the end of the wicked shall be cut off. 39But the salvation of the righteous is of the LORD: he is their strength in the time of trouble. 40And the LORD shall help them, and deliver them: he shall deliver them from the wicked, and save them, because they trust in him. |
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 It's been a long, long while since I posted a "Can You Help". I thought it was time to do so. The following question touched me in a personal way and I thought it important to share it and my own answer. Please submit your own advice via the "Comments" feature of my blog. I was for 3 years married to a military man... who was violent and abusive after I became pregnant with our first child...He was forever dropping our infant on furniture in anger, shaking her...etc... When she was thirteen, she told me that he was "touching" her. I have since left him (returned home with my family)... is this wrong? I feel I did what was in the best interest of my little girl... but I need a little biblical insight... Please return my email.. thank you. In Christ Love, Susan My reply: Dear Susan: Though the Bible does not speak about some marital problems like abuse I believe we can apply the following principles and verses to abusive situations. 1. God does not want you or your child to be harmed.I believe that you must separate from this man to protect yourself and your child.
St.Paul fled places when his life was threatened. Once he was lowered out of a window in a basket to escape danger. Jesus walked through the crowd and away from the people who were planning to throw him off a cliff. This is truly evil that your husband has threatened and caused harm to you and your child. Jesus said, "The thief comes to kill and destroy, but I have come to give you life and to give it more abundantly." John 10:10.
You did NOTHING wrong in leaving. It would have been wrong to STAY. Please call the National Domestic Violence hotline in the USA at: 1-800-799-7233 or contact AACC for a counseling referral to a professional in your area.. Or look up an agency in your country if you are outside of the US: International listings. You can find truly Christian counsel. Such resources help you learn how to protect yourself, cope, be more assertive and build your self-esteem. When you live with an abusive person, truth seems to fall away. You lose your confidence and confusion becomes a way of life. Sometimes you begin to feel as though you're "losing your mind"... your husband explains reality away in such a way as to make you doubt what is really occurring. And... you eventually no longer feel capable of making choices, decisions, etc... If you or your child are still in danger, you need to call the police and file an order of protection with the court. A domestic violence agency can help you with this. It is SIN to allow someone to knowingly hurt another person. It is sin to knowingly allow hurt to yourself, too. 2. We are responsible to protect our children. The law protects children in this country from physical, emotional/mental, sexual abuse and neglect. GOD PUT THE LAW AND THOSE WHO UPHOLD IT IN PLACE TO PROTECT YOU AND YOUR CHILD(REN). Look up resources for children at ChildHelpUSA or call them at: 1-800-4A-Child. Check out the ChildAbuse.org site as well. 3. Scriptures command that no one should endanger another person's life. We are to live godly lives. We are to emulate Christ and walk as He did. We are to love one another. None of these things are happening (or reality) unless we've layed OUR OWN SELVES down at the cross and are willing to do whatever it takes to provide our children homes of peace, protection, care and love. Leaving a distressing situation is not easy. But sometimes it is necessary. You can AND SHOULD do it. If you don't... when you allow it to continue... you are an accomplice to your child's pain and injury. You are ALLOWING YOUR HUSBAND TO HARM him/her (and yourself). Can you imagine how your child might have felt if you had STAYED!? She would CERTAINLY have felt like the child in the above picture. She is depending on you to protect her. How might YOU feel if you approached your mother, trembling in fear and shame, to tell her what your father had done... only to be met with anger and refusal to be aided? You have done that. You did NOT do wrong. You HELPED YOUR CHILD by getting out. And you helped yourself as well!!! 4. If you stay in an abusive situation and your child gets hurt you could be held responsible for not protecting that child from harm. 5. When the Bible does not clearly state what to do in every life situation, we need to seek other biblical principles and scriptures which may be applied to our situation. 6. When someone is causing harm like your husband, he is acting like an unbeliever and an enemy. How can light live with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 states: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?. 7. If your husband is open to getting help and changing his behavior...Refer him to a domestic violence shelter for the Batterer's Intervention program. But, do not get back together with him. He is dangerous! He may say he's changed. He may act like he is. He may cry and tell you how sorry he is and how wrong he was... DON'T BUY IT. If you jump back in, and believe the problem is fixed... I guarantee that time will reveal the same old abuse... it WILL crop back up. The problem your abusive husband has is HIS HEART. He is NOT right with the Lord. No true change can or will be had without complete and total repentance. A Christian is one in name ONLY unless there has been rebirth. If you need to talk, please feel free to write me anytime. I do not understand everything you are going through. But I do understand abuse and the need to be assertive and protect yourself and your children. God be with you as you pray for wisdom and guidance. ~Carrie
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 Sometimes life requires us to do things that are uncomfortable. God requires it. Are you ready to step out in faith? Without questioning? When the Israelites were told to cross the sea, did they question God? Surely the "what if"s were tumbling about in their head at first... but they chose to move forward in faith. We do not know all of the questionings within Abraham when he was instructed to sacrifice Issac. But we do know that he chose to obey the Lord, trusting Him. We, too, must step out in faith. We MUST trust our Heavenly Father. Move forward. He has your good at heart. He will work ALL things good out for those who love Him. Don't let fear paralyze you. Don't doubt. Just do what needs done. There will be showers of blessing! |
