Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Baby Thoughts & Photos
The first half of this pregnancy, I did a lot of thinking that this baby might be a little girl. Then, a few weeks ago, I started having "sypmtoms" that I personally relate to having a boy that I had with both Samuel and Elijah.
Now, I haven't had a little girl so I could definatly be wrong!
I told Jonathan that well, we might just be having a third little boy. I watched his eyes brighten with a snap and start to sparkle. "Wouldn't that be so great?"
Well, yeah.
Right after we announced to the whole world that I was expecting again, I was swamped with comments about 'how maybe this one would be a girl' and how they 'hoped for my sake' and 'maybe finally'.
I visited my dental hygenist. She "tried four times for a girl before she called it quits".
I'm sorry, I just can't grasp that. Let's say, for an example, that you have four girls. You really, really, really want a son.
Okay.
"Trying again" means that, worst case scenario, you have another precious little girl. Why is that bad? Is there something wrong with your other girls? What would it be like to know that the only reason your parents "kept going" and had you was in hopes that you were a boy? And they finally felt they couldn't "risk" another girl?
Wouldn't you wonder if you or your sisters were really so bad that your parents had to stop?
Just curious.
I love my boys.
I love the idea of another one!
It does cross my mind that we'll probably be the subject of a bit more "pity" because we don't have our girl "yet" . . . . and I find it strangely amusing to think that when/if we have a girl, some people might actually mentally sigh we relief that we can "be done now".
Done? I hope we're just getting started!
At an event a while back, I had quite a few strangers ask me if I was hoping for a girl this time. The more people I answered, the more I realized I really, really don't. I'll take either. Actually, in a way, my hopes are still leaning a tiny bit towards another boy. Which I know hardly anyone will understand, so I don't voice it, normally.
I like boys. I love all of mine!
Regardless of gender, I think of this child as my "strong" child. Samuel was my spontanious, active one. Elijah was even more active, yet even in my womb I could tell he was going to be more "delicate". His hickups were tiny, but he was predictable!
This baby is just plain strong. Everything about this child feels sturdy, filling me up on the inside already. And when it comes to predictability, this one is somewhere between Samuel and Elijah - not as scheduled, but not as spontanious. Quite simply, strong and steady.
I'm getting so excited to meet this child. Only about 14 more weeks . . . . if, Lord willing, I reach my due date with this one!
I do so enjoy pregnancy . . . .
~Ashley~
Comments
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by morningsunshine
ugh! I really dislike people like you! I really REALLY detest being pregnant! Labor (natural, painkiller-free labor) is sooooo preferable to being pregnant! But......
I love holding that sweet adorable lovable baby. Which is why I am doing this again. hehe. I am hoping for another boy (even out the bedroom arrangements!). We are going to peek at this one. I didn't at the others. this one I want to know. I want to know which baby clothes to pull out before I have the baby.
I love your attitude about your pregnancy, your family, your boys.
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Citygal
Hi Ashley,
I've never been able to figure out why people have preferences on this either. I'm always getting asked if we are hoping for a girl too - as that will make it a 'perfect' family - two boys and two girls for us. Actually, I get asked so many times that just the other day my oldest son, who must have been listening in when people asked (it's amazing what they pick up), said to me, "were you glad that you had a boy first and not a girl?" I had to think carefully first before answering him, but I said that his daddy and I have never worried about whether our babies were boys or girls, just glad that God was giving us a baby whatever it was, and we were thrilled to have him first.
I have a friend who had 6 boys before she had a daughter - what a fun household to live in, I should say! :o)
Rachel from NZ
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by RedneckGirl
Your family is adorable! If I was to get pregnant again I wouldn't care either. I didn't care with my two I have. I have this yearning to have another one but haven't sprung that on my husband yet. We will just have to see what the Lord has in store for us.
Chirsty
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by mamato8
I loved this post! I feel this way too though I did hope for a girl with my last baby and I got her. I would have taken a boy happily too though. I think God kind of knew I could only handle so much boy energy which is why the youngest two are girls:):):) I have 5 boys and 4 girls.
I hate getting the question....:will you have more" and the looks or comments suggesting that I'm insane thought those are few and far in between. Most people think it's great!
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Dana
Hi Ashley,
I love your blog and as a mom of 3 little boys I can relate to this post! Our youngest is 15 months and dh and I are hoping the Lord will bless us with another baby soon and yes, we do want a girl but we are not having another baby simply b/c we do not have a girl yet, we just want more children and we want God to be in control. If we have a girl this time I am sure people will be like "oh you finally got your girl, I bet you are done now" but if it's the Lord's will we won't be done yet! You are right about people pitying couples with all boys or children of one sex. I get the impression that people are glad they are not us. haha People will often make negative joking comments to us about having boys. But having 3 boys is great! Good thing God is in control and knows what's best!
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Little Woman
Posted by littlewoman
What a wonderful post! I am one of many girls. We just found out that our mother is going to have a baby, and everyone asks are you wanting a boy this time! We could care less, there are six of us girls, so having a boy would be kind of weird for us. But God gives us exactly what we need when we need it.
Sarah
Edited by littlewoman on Wed-15-Oct-2008 at 07:19
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Clare
Ashley, we almost didnt recognize Elijah! He looks so grown up with his walking and especially the haircut. I love it. He is such a handsome little boy! I miss him :) We miss both of them! And Samuel looks older with every picture you post (probably because he is!) I love your curtains...you did a great job with them! You look beautiful in blue, by the way :) Talk to you soon!
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by srusnowangel
I am currently pregnant also. We have one wonderful boy and I am the same way. People keep saying that its going to be a girl and hoping it will be a girl and how we need more girls in the family. Personally I think it is going to be a boy. (So I am only 11 weeks but I still just have the feeling it is a boy) My husband and I both have said that we aren't focused on gender we are focused on the baby. We just want a healthy pregnancy and baby with God's will. Bless you and I will be following along to see the blessing the Lord brings you Ashley. I am so excited for you and the strong little life you carry.
Wed-15-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by gabbie427
I am so glad to hear this!!! It bothers me to hear others say things like, we tried twice to have a boy before we were finally blessed with him. (As if the other two childre, girls, were just practice shots?? We missed, so we should try again!)
When I was pregnant with Noah, Matthew and I discussed that we would be happy with either. I secretly hoped it would be a girl. And Matthew secretly hoped for a boy to carry on the family name. Then I remember praying and telling God, we would love this child no matter what. Whatever he chose to bless us with we would be overjoyed with. And you know what?? WE WERE!!! We still are.
God's Blessings,
Amy Jo
Sat-18-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by tami/agodlyhomemaker
amen-great post!
and could those boys look more like you two?!! :)
Sat-18-Oct-2008 - Babies
Posted by Katie
Hey! I am the same way. Whenever people ask if I'm hoping for a boy, I say it would be fun to have a boy but I love having two girls and three would be awesome too! =) As it's coming down to it, I am excited in different ways for each. Does that make sense? I am excited about boy stuff, about a little man to follow Daddy around, etc. And I'm excited about the thought of having three girls. I love girls! =)
Tue-21-Oct-2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
You summed up what the first 8 years of my marriage was like. We had 5 boys and I think I have heard it all a 100 times. I loved having boys, I was good at it. We were happy with whatever the Lord gave us. I knew somewhere down the line I would probably have a girl.
When that first girl came, #6, then a whole new set of comments arised. "Oh you can stop now, you FINALLY got your girl, yada yada yada" She is awesome though and I wouldnt have placed her anywhere else in our line of children. She was perfectly put where she is as number 6. Her sister came next and I now have 5 boys 12 down to 5 and 2 girls 3 and 1.
We will have another one making its "gender" known to us in about 7 weeks. I cant wait to meet this baby. Its been 5 years sense we have had a little boy so it would bring alot of joy to have another. Then again I am in the girl grove and to keep moving forward in that would be a blessing as well.
When poeple say anything about it these days, I just reply " I cant wait to meet who The Lord has placed with us this time, He does all things perfectly!"
Audrey
homefullofboys.blogspot.com
(whos blog was created 5 years ago when all she had was a house full of boys, now it would be more appropriately titled a house full of love)
Tue-21-Oct-2008 - I know EXACTLY what you mean!
Posted by Alycia
I got so tired of everyone telling me how much they hoped I'd be having a girl during my last pregnancy, and that was only my second child! (I'm sure most of these people assumed I'd be done having children if I got one of each - ha!). I was also leaning slightly toward desiring another boy, but once I lifted my darling little daughter out of the water, I was thrilled to have her. You're right - it doesn't matter at ALL!
Tue-21-Oct-2008 - Good attitude
Posted by Catherine R.
Wow, you are getting along in this pregnancy! And you don't look like you gained 5 million pounds like me!
I am glad you have a good perspective on this, Ashley. There is a couple at my church with 7 boys ages baby to 16 years. I imagine they've gotten their share of weird comments. If you have another boy, obviously that's what God intended.
I am excited to hear about his or her birth regardless. : )
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